Guys, So You Want to File Divorce Papers?

So you want to file divorce papers? Before you file for a divorce seek divorce advice from a few sources. Everyone can offer divorce tips but not everyone offers good divorce tips. Once you have decided to divorce the process is quite simple as long as it is a no fault divorce. These are the easiest and fastest kind. Calmly talk to your wife and state it is best for everyone to have a no fault divorce. This will reduce cost to a minimum and keep everyone on friendly terms. Before asking for a divorce decide on assets and children. If children are involved think about the best place for them. The courts may actually decide which parent gets the children. Next thing to think about are assets. Determine if you want to be a scum bag when it comes to money. What exactly does that mean to me as a dad? Well, are you going to drain the bank account of cash and then file for a divorce? Maybe payoff the car to reduce debt load after the divorce? Legally you have not done anything wrong. This action could decrease the probability of a no fault divorce. If you are thinking about divorce maybe your wife is too. Better keep an eye on all joint accounts. Freeze your credit report so no one can open a credit card or get a home equity loan on the house. Now for divorce advice. First of all, just where do you get plan to get advice? The primary source of advice is someone recently divorced. They can tell you how much it cost, how long it took, who got the kids, and what judges are focusing on. Next place for advice is the internet. You need to determine where the divorce will take place. Once you have established the state the divorce will take place, it is imperative you know the law first before asking for a divorce. Does your state usually grant joint custody? Does your state mandate both parents live within 5 miles of each other? Does your state split assets 50-50 or does it return assets that each spouse brought into the marriage? If you have trouble understanding the law it may pay to retain a lawyer to update you on current law. This will probably cost less than $500. After reviewing all the mechanics of divorce, you need to keep a healthy attitude. Your marriage simply did not fail. Your marriage just changed. Both husband and wife grow older and change as they get older. Maybe you, as a couple, just fell out of love. This does not make you a bad person - just a realistic one. It is better for you and your kids to end an unhealthy relationship. Your children are very observant and deserve to be in a healthy relationship when they grow up. Do you really want your kids to grow up thinking marriage is just yelling and fighting?