Simple Tips for Men to Last Longer During Sex

One of the most common sexual problems among men is premature ejaculation, or the inability to "last longer" while having sex. In fact, "how to last longer" is the single-most commonly asked question from men to sex therapists and experts. Before we discuss some quick ways to last longer and increase your time in bed, we need to lay down the fundamentals and explain why this problem is so common. It's a popular misconception that a woman wants a man who can deliver orgasm after orgasm during sexual intercourse. While it's true that the ability to last longer in bed is seen as attractive and important to some women, it's good to keep in mind that this is greatly overblown. It's also important to reiterate that you are not alone and not a "freak" just because you can't have sex for hours and wish you could last longer. You see, men were biologically built to have sex for very brief periods of time. Back when our species was still relatively young, there were way too many potential threats to our species existence to last longer in bed. It was efficient and successful for the man to penetrate the woman and inject his seed as quickly as possible, which reduced the chances of predators interrupting the act and guaranteed that the female's eggs were fertilized. The thought to "last longer" never entered their heads. However, women evolved with the ability to have multiple orgasms over time.

Why is this so incompatible, and why is it the burden of the man to be able to last longer if his biology betrays him? Scientists suggest that a man who can last longer has an edge because, in our infancy, we lived in packs that roamed the earth. Eating, hunting, caring for children, and even mating were performed in groups. This means that multiple males were designed to mate with a single female, who reached orgasm over time. Since the development of agriculture, "personal property" and individual ownership became an important issue. Men and women became more monogamous, and therefore males who could last longer (and thus simulate the effect of five or six men mating with her) had a sexual edge. Yes, it is unfair that we are programmed to orgasm quickly and yet men that last longer have an edge.

Fortunately, there are plenty of tricks that you can use in order to last longer starting tonight. Practice Woman on Top: The "cowgirl" position, in which your partner "rides" the male on top, is much less stimulating to your penis but is equally stimulating to her vagina. Performing this position will indubitably help you last longer. Increase Your Sexual Fitness: Your pelvic muscle, also known as your PC muscle, has incredible control over your ejaculatory response mechanisms. If you learn to strengthen this area, you are sure to last longer in bed. Learn to Relax: When we have sex, we have the habit of tightening our muscles and forgetting to breathe. This gets in the way of your goal to last longer, because it causes the body to rely on the sympathetic system to pump blood, which is a precursor to orgasm. If you can have sex while remaining totally relaxed, you are sure to last longer. Clear Your Mind: When you suffer from premature ejaculation, it can be hard to concentrate on sex. You'll have what's known as "performance anxiety", wherein you think constantly about an early climax and therefore actually create an early climax. It's important that you are thinking about absolutely nothing but the act. Stop and Start: Finally, if you become aware of your arousal levels, you can practice the "start and stop" method, which has helped men to last longer for decades. Basically, every time you near the "point of no return", you pull out and relax until you are less aroused. Most men want to last longer. Fortunately, if you're currently unable to last longer, there are plenty of techniques that can come to your rescue. The ability to last longer is all about relaxation, concentration, research, and practice, so don't get discouraged and keep it up!