When He Thinks You're Fat

When she got married she was a size 2 and very sexy. After their daughter was born she was a size 14. Two years later instead of losing weight she was a size 18. Instead of hitting the gym or losing the "baby fat" she hit post partum depression and threw in the towels resolving to the fact that she was just big and "he better loves me for who I am on the inside rather than the outside." He did love her for the person she was, but his looks on her enormously large size 18 body and 40-DD chest and a g-string that turned into booty-floss that got buried under all those "loafs of bread" did not make her feel the sexiest or most attractive woman in the world. But she didn't care anymore

I'm sure you've heard similar stories.

There seems to be little women can do when they are fighting a depression in addition to feeling imprisoned in a body they don't want to be in. In fact, the slip-on shoes we resort to during our late stages in pregnancy now have become our favorite shoes, even long after the pregnancy is over.

Reluctantly you have at least attempted to go back to the gym, but your baby now keeps you busy full time. So you resort to diets and everyone of them fails, causing you to get even more depressed. The list of excuses of why you can't seem to get that department of your life back on track seem endless.

The strain on your marriage grows heavier and thoughts of leaving this marriage start crossing your mind. What would happen to you if you left?

You realize that life would go on - with you being happy or unhappy - it goes on.

Here are 5 things that can help you get off to a great start to regain your health and re-ignite a new spark into your partnership:

1. No more lame excuses. Instead of finding every reason in the world not to take care of yourself, look for reasons why you want to feel attractive again. This is where you started out, and this is where you will get to once again. Stop worrying about getting there by next week, start small but stay consistent in your efforts.

2. Do it for you. Instead of wanting to lose weight for "him," realize that losing weight and feeling good about yourself is all about you. If you're in a relationship then yes, you're going through this together, but losing the weight for him may be too superficial of a reason and the results may only be temporary. Desire to lose the weight and get back in shape for you and only you. Remember that it is you who is feeling the lack of health, you feel unattractive and you want to start feeling better about yourself. Your lover feeling attracted to you is a bonus, cream on the crop so to speak, but the main reason for you to get back in shape needs to be for you.

3. Be gentle and agreeable with Nature. Putting your hands on your hips and refusing to lose weight because you want to "teach him a lesson" is just plain stupid. He loves you no matter what, provided he truly loves you for who you are at the core and not your looks, but the truth remains that we are ruled by Nature and men are stimulated visually, and they are just as much turned off by visuals. This is just the way Nature has designed men and women to be different, so rather than wanting to take on a fight with Nature and hurt yourself and your partner, be grateful for the certainty Mother Earth delivers each and every time. Accept these simple rules and work with Nature rather than against her and watch miracles enfold.