Using Fantasies To Spice Up Your Love Life

It is believed that you and your mate will have to make the decision of monogamy or not, yet we all have those natural tendencies to commit adultery. We all have to work at having a monogamous happy relationship, just as we all have to work at playing the guitar perfectly if that is what we desire. Learning to play the guitar would take commitment, and practice, even though some of us will learn how, but some of us will give it up. Monogamy is not natural and it requires effort to achieve. I believe that role playing with or without sexy costumes can help us do just that. Costumes, or lingerie, are just a way to enhance any type of experience. Let us face it, the human mind, if not the body, is still going to roam here and there, because we will always fantasize about the girl or the guy that we met in an elevator or that we work with. We will close our eyes and envision about a past lover that was particularly good. We will continue to make love to our mates and make believe that they are our favorite movie star or rock star, because fantasy is very normal. Our minds are capable of creating whole worlds for us to explore and we cannot stop that. Why not provide a release for our fantasies and that natural tendency that we all have to cheat? Why not heighten the passion and the sexual gratification by fulfilling a portion of our lovers fantasies? If we make ourselves the center of those needs, desires, and fantasies, then we are not providing a method to maintaining monogamy. If your lover were to dress up in a sexy costume like a prostitute and be seductive, then play the role so that you actually had to pay her for sex, and then make passionate love to her. Anyone could have a fantasy fulfilled. In fact, she too may have had a fantasy fulfilled at the same time. There is no longer a need to pursue your hidden fantasy outside of your relationship, because pretending to be some one else is truly fun. Being able to pretend you are someone else with that someone special that you love can be exciting, and excitement is passion. Anyone can tell you that passionate sex is great sex, and great sex can facilitate monogamy. If staying monogamous is your goal, then role playing with sexy costumes can help facilitate that. Some people may think that if you dress up in a sexy costume or some type of sexy lingerie and pretend to be someone else, then you are perpetuating the desire to cheat. The desire to cheat is already there, even if it is subdued, so why not allow the desire to take place, and still be involved. Tell me that you have never fantasized about sex with someone else or that you have a love life that cannot use a little kick. Of course, we could be wrong, but are we?